I haven’t really written about the specifics that are taking place in our life right now. I haven’t wanted to because of the uncertainty that lies ahead and the worry it might cause by me just writing it all down. Writing anything down always makes it feel so much more real to me. I have always been a journaler – I have boxes of them downstairs in my house. I have loved it and still enjoy writing when time allows. I have kept pregnancy journals, first year journal for Logan, sermons I’ve loved, quotes I’ve read…I love writing. But writing all of this down sounds ridiculous, just unreal. You’ll know why in just a moment.
The last post I wrote about my family was about Illness in our household. From there we’ve kind of lost track. I have everything written down, of course, and the easiest way for me to explain everything is to literally bullet it out by date, I think. We’ll see how this goes…
- 1/22 – Brian gets diagnosed with mono. Two strains of it; Epstein-Barr and Cytomegalovirus (CMV)
- 1/25 – we spent 6 hours in the ER with Logan for his 105.1 temp. He goes through test after test and gets a shot of Rocephin.
- 1/26 – at the follow-up appointment for Logan, they diagnose him with Strep. He gets put on Ceprozil.
- 1/27 – I have my 24 week appointment for the baby. I casually mention that Brian has mono and Logan has strep. The DR and I call Brian at work to find out if he knows what ’strains’ of mono he has. He does – one of them is CMV. This is very worrisome for pregnant women as it can cause complications with your baby.
I stare at my DR in shock.
Everything kind of slows down as I’m trying to process it.
I don’t really know what it means yet.
Bless my DR for being thorough – she sends me the lab to get bloodwork done.
I pray and feel good.
We wait. - 1/29 – The DR calls back with one of the test results. My IGG (antibody) was positive. This can either mean that I’ve already had CMV (which can stand alone from mono, it is very common in children, usually they don’t have any symptoms, so the chances are high that I’ve already had it) or that I have an active infection in my body that I’ve already contracted from Brian.
I didn’t know how to respond.
I was glad…and I was worried?
In order to find out if indeed my CMV is active, they need to wait for the other antibody (IGM) to come back.
I pray and feel okay.
We wait. - 2/2 – The DR calls to tell me that my IGM was postive. This typically means that I do have CMV in my body right now. Because this is hard to diagnose and nail down, they want me to come back in for more bloodwork so they can compare my antibody levels against each other to see what my body is doing with them. They also want Brian’s blood results to compare to mine. The receptionist schedules a bloodwork appoint for 2/10 (which would be two weeks from my initial bloodwork). They also want me to get a Level II ultrasound done to ensure the baby is growing okay at this point. Why are they worried about that? Because CMV can cause anything from hearing loss, to mental retardation, to stunted growth, to a smaller-size head…the list goes on…in babies. Some don’t contract it from their mom (meaning it isn’t present in the amniotic fluid) and some do.
I was stunned.
I had been praying on my hands and knees for removal of this completely.
I was expecting a “you’re okay!” phone call.
I go upstairs to my husband’s ‘room’ (he has such bad night sweats and sleeps so uncomfortably that he hasn’t been sleeping in our room for quite a while now) and tell him.
We are worried and in disbelief for what this could mean. We have to get through that first.
Then we can focus on what good could come of this! It could turn at any moment and everything could be fine! This we hope for.
We pray as a family. And…
We wait. - 2/3 – The Perinatal Specialist calls me to schedule the Level II ultrasound. She says, “Because of the exposure your baby has potentially had to CMV and the serious risks this could cause, we recommend you spend some time with the genetic counselor prior to your scheduled ultrasound.” I ask why, she tells me that the counselor will be able to get all of our questions answered. I say a definite “YES” to that recommendation as we have more questions than we can even process right now. She schedules our appointment with the counselor for 2/10 and our ultrasound directly after that.
Foreshadowing to our day on 2/10:
-8:30 a.m. bloodwork
-9:30 a.m. genetic counselor
-10:30 a.m. level II ultrasound
I have come to terms with this.
I have prayed for a shield around my mind from the Enemy.
I know that is my weakness – my mind. And that the Enemy uses that.
So I had been praying for that.
By the time I spoke with the Specialist I was okay. I was only looking towards the next test and nothing further.
It is out of our hands.
It is in the hands of our Father, which gives me more assurance than ever.
He chose us for this baby. He chose us as his/her parents.
We are all okay right now. We are getting there.
We will wait. - 2/4 – I’m at work. Brian is also at work, for the first time all week. He called to tell me he left work at 2:30. He thought I’d be proud of him that he was going to go home and sleep (and I was proud of him, so proud of him. I need my husband back and healthy).He calls me 2 minutes later and says,
“You’ll never believe what just happened?”
“What?”
“I just got in a really bad car accident”{{Shock}}.
“Are you okay?”
“I think so, yes, I’m okay. My airbags went off and my car is totaled, but I’m okay.”
I leave work to drive down to Lakeville to pick him up. The entire way down I’m praying. I’m also kind of laughing. I knew at this point that he was fine – that was what mattered – but the disbelief was never-ending. I couldn’t believe this had just happened. What else do you do but chuckle and think, “Really? Really Lord?”
After I reach him, we sit for a while and I listen while he tells me about the accident. A car two cars in front of him pumped his breaks on a slippery part in the road. He moved from the left lane to the right lane very quickly and tried to overcompensate for the swerving. He ended up flipping his car in the ditch. This caused the woman behind that man to instinctively put her breaks on and Brian watched as she swerved into the right lane. Brian knew he didn’t want to pump his breaks as the same thing would happen. So he was going to go right through it, he didn’t know what else to do. At the same time he was going through on the left-hand lane, the woman overcompensated to stay on the highway and bolted over to the left hand lane just as Brian was getting there. He t-boned her driver’s side of the car and they both slide into the ditch together. As he got out of his car and ran over to her, he saw a little 2-year-old boy in the backseat. Then he heard her say,
“I’m 9 and a half months pregnant” (meaning she was probably around 36-37 weeks pregnant).{{Shock}}
He coached her through calming down and breathing. She was okay by the time her husband got there a few minutes later. The paramedics initially checked her out and thought she was fine. We have to find her name and phone number to check on her today. We pray for her and her baby.
Brian has an enlarged spleen from his mono. We worried about the impact of that from the airbags and accident.
He talked to his DR, she wanted him to watch it and pay attention to signs.
He is sore – but okay.
We will wait overnight to make sure he doesn’t have any other sore spots on his body and that his spleen is okay. - Later that evening (2/4) – our dear sweet nanny, Annie, stayed later so we could deal with the car accident. We had noticed a steady decline in Logan’s overall health the past couple of days. Terrible cough, runny nose, high fevers, not really sleeping. When I walked in the door Annie says,
“Jac, I hate to tell you this but Logan didn’t nap well this afternoon and he seems warm. He also has this rash on his face”
The rash continued to get worse and covered his entire body – in his ears, all over his head, his chest, back, neck, legs.you…have…got…to…be…kidding…me
Annie, bless her heart, prayed over us while I was waiting on the phone to get through to our Peds office. She prayed for our entire family and the rest that we need.
- Even later that evening (2/4) – the DR determines the rash is viral (Logan was on antibiotics for strep, so that takes care of anything bacterial) and they draw some blood. His white blood cell counts and other counts are off.
He has mono.{{Shock}}
That would explain the irritability, the loss of appetite (the boy is skinny right now), the temps, etc.
The DR wants us to monitor his fevers over the weekend. Because he has had fevers all week, his body is fighting it and that is a long time. If he still has a fever Monday morning, we’re supposed to take him back to get further tests done and determine if its something else.
We wait. - 2/5 – This morning we are tired. We are giving lots of hugs and comfort to each other. We have talked to our parents and those that we know will pray. Because that is what we need right now. This is a moment of weakness for me – where I’m just spent. And I’m okay with that. I’m okay with crying out to my God asking for something…not sure what…but something.
Peace.
Answers.
Health.
Protection.
We are locking our doors and not moving until Monday morning
All joking-aside, we are okay. I am praying for wisdom as a mom and wife, patience as my boys are healing, strength as my body is weak, my heart even weaker.
He will bring us through this.
He is in control.
He is our Father, Healer, Protector.We will wait.
We will wait for Brian to desire to eat, Logan’s rash to go away, Logan to desire to eat (meanwhile I’m going to let him eat anything with calories – I don’t care what he eats, just that he eats), my health to remain intact, our ultrasound on Wednesday, the bloodwork on Wednesday, and for an annointing of the Holy Spirit over this entire house, this entire body of a family, this everything. - Thanks for listening. For letting me get it all out. It feels good to let it all out.
And of course I’ll end with pics…
my boys hanging out in daddy’s ‘room’
the waiting room last night. b had to wear a mask – (which yes, I laughed)
logan’s rash
look at that tired face (or he could be tired of me taking pics
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reading this morning his ‘big brother’ book – all about learning to be a big brother!































































































